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Questions tagged [manners]

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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

We were watching a Cycling Tour on TV yesterday and my 4.5-year old son saw that after having drinks or chocolates those cyclists were throwing the empty bottles/wrappers on the roadside. I absolutely know that this is not littering and it's a…
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

My daughter is nearly 5yrs old and goes to kindergarten. Recently her classmate's (call her A) parent reports to the class teacher that my daughter bosses A verbally to the point that A refuses to go to school. The example behaviour is that my…
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How should I teach my child to help but also do things on her own?

The other day I asked my child "Can you give me a napkin?" and she said "o self" which means "you do it yourself"! At first I was shocked, and ashamed that she has perhaps learned it from me and my wife, where perhaps my wife asks me to give her…
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How should I deal with a child who intrudes on adult conversations?

The 4 year old will often engage herself in adult (age not content) conversations. While it doesn't specifically bother us, we actually find it amusing, it could pose a problem when dealing with others. She is one to ask many questions and does well…
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How do you handle the boomerang effect with Teens?

15 year old teen boy in question. Generally good kid but minor annoyances here and there coming & going without saying hello (sometimes). missing please/thank you (sometimes). speaking courteously to parents (2/3 times in general, particularly to…
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Teaching the details of etiquette and table manners

There's a range of good behaviors that I classify as "table manners." These range from pretty basic (don't throw food) to general politeness (use your fork and spoon, napkin on lap) to moderately obscure and/or localized etiquette (start with the…
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

My 10 year old son has ADHD. He has some severe issues with focus and memory. We've tried various things to help him focus and remember but they all seem to arbitrarily stick or fail. For now he constantly leaves the toilet seat up. With a mother, a…
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Vacationing with Grandparents

My wife and I sometimes get offers from her parents or mine to take our family on vacation (examples: a cruise, or summer family camp). We have two kids, 10 and 8. The issue is that our parents tend to be very opinionated about when and where we…
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Teaching manners to a toddler

I have a 19mo daughter who spends ~30hrs/week with a nanny. She "teaches" her to say "please" by forcing her to say it and withholding a wanted item until she does. And forces a "thank you" afterward. I feel like this does less teaching and more…
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How can we teach my preschooler to not interrupt?

My three-and-a-half year old son talks constantly. Its pretty much a non-stop monolog from the time he wakes up until the time he falls asleep. We're okay with this, and try not to discourage his language development or speech. Lately, he has…
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What's the best way to respond when parents have kids put a helmet on a kid's head in a way that doesn't help that much?

There are a couple of things that people are told in relation to bike helmets. I am concerned with the third. The first is that everyone should wear a helmet whenever riding a bicycle (not: kids have it placed as a safety expectation, but one that…
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How much should a caretaker push for mannered greetings and farewells from a pre-schooler?

I care for a three-year-old child that is generally very well mannered and a joy to care for. He takes after his dad in his morning attitude though (both of them need a little time to "wake-up" even after they are awake. Of course, his Dad still…
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Should we expect the kids to make an eye contact always?

Having seen so many questions on this site dealing with the kids not making an eye contact, I was wondering if there are times when we should ask the kid not to make an eye contact? I remember my childhood and adulthood when my father and mother…
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Should I use the word please when giving preschooler's orders?

We try to stress the importance of using please and thank you with kids, and one of the ways we do that is by demonstrating the use of good manners ourselves by always using please and thank you when talking with them. However, I was thinking lately…
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Is it appropriate to say "Congratulations" to premature parents?

I already said "Congratulations", via text message, to my friend who's wife just gave birth to a girl at 25 weeks. Assuming that everything is ok, or at least going well given the situation, is it OK to say "Congratulations"? At first I said "let us…
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