Suppose you have some multivariate normal distribution $X \sim N(\mu,\Sigma)$. Is there a good way to calculate a measure of distance between an arbitrary $X_{i}$ and $X_{j}$ of $X$ (I suppose the simplest approach would be to begin with a two dimensional distribution, which can be obtained through the conditional multivariate normal for any arbitrary large distribution)? Beyond just correlation, I want to be able to take into account the differences in the means and variances as well when thinking about how similar or different they are.
Some approaches I'm familiar with don't seem to be what I'm looking for (Mahalanobis distance can provide a distance for a random sample from the distribution $X$ and the Kullback–Leibler divergence or Bhattacharyya distance would allow you to calculate how different $X$ would be from some other distribution $Y$).