Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us.
He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink milk, he cries, cries, and cries louder. His mom is…
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?
When our 6-year-old daughter is trying something new and hard (homework, reading a hard word, video games, etc.) she can get into a cycle of frustration and anger that ends with her crying in a ball on the floor.
It starts with her making a mistake,…
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?
My 9-year-old stepson has terrible tantrums. I was abused as a child and used to act out as a result. Teachers and other adults were very hostile to me and failed to recognize my cries for help. So when I was first getting to know this boy, I was…
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed
I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing.
I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and grew out of it quickly.
I am at a loss as to how…
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over
My five-year-old really struggles with moving from one activity task to another.
For example, we tell him we will only do a certain activity for x amount of time and then be done. It doesn't matter what the activity is or how bad he did or did not…
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3 year old tantrums in public
Yesterday we (wife, 3 year old son, 6 year old daughter, me) were at a mall. After we stepped off the moving pavement my son decided that he wants to go another direction, and pulled his hand out of mine. I told him OK, but we'll go away, and…
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?
My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are normal, but they still need to be addressed so she…
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Why does my son behave better when he's alone with one parent than with both?
Whenever I'm alone with my son, we play, have fun, and he even plays alone with his toys for a long time; this also happens when my wife is alone with him.
However, when we are both present, he becomes clingy and doesn't want to play alone. We must…
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Does a child need to apologize and how should I react while it does not?
Our son is 6 years old and often quite "bullheaded". If something does not go the way he wants, he is very frustrated and quickly shows a tantrum, cries, screams and insults us.
We then send him to his room (mostly I have to bring him there as he…
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration
Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, utterly exhausted and with no idea what to do.
The…
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How to react to an indecisive 2.5-year-old?
I have a 2.5-year-old son. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away or do something else, he freaks out that he wants it. Then when I take it out again, he'll shout that he…
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Strategies to reduce computer game interest
We have a moderately strict rule about electronics time at the house -- as long as their homework, chores, or other responsibilities are finished, each kid gets to play a computer or video game for an hour plus watch TV/movies for an hour. We also…
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Any advice on how to react to my 4 year old who gets hysterical instead of solving her "problem"?
My four year old daughter has had this issue recently where if anything goes "wrong" she completely loses it. I put "wrong" in quotes because its the slightest thing and, in particular, its situations that she has the ability to obtain what she…
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How to control tantrums when neigbors don't let the kid "cry it out"?
Little children (say two/three year olds) frequently have tantrums (I want my ... and I want it NOW!!). Normally, one would let him cry a little, then when he calms down explain why you can't give him what he wants.
The issue is that neighbors…
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How can I keep my toddler from scratching himself when he is upset?
Whenever my toddler gets very upset or throws a fit, he has a tendency to rake his fingernails very hard across his face, often drawing blood. Currently one side of his face is covered with scratches and scabs from this behavior. How can we…
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