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Questions tagged [self-esteem]

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How do you raise an intelligent and happy daughter in a sexist world?

I don't have enough space to explain my reasoning. I just don't want my daughter to be influenced by the media or the general opinions of "society". My daughter is a baby in my womb. I've decided no TV ever, no movies, no pop music, no magazines,…
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Is complimenting children where they can hear it good or bad?

TL;DR: Is there anything wrong with praising children to their parents while the children can hear it? From R. Kipling's "The jungle book": ‘How beautiful are the noble children! How large are their eyes! And so young too! Indeed, indeed, I might…
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Building self-esteem while encouraging a tidy, acceptable appearance

My daughter is currently 10. I have always tried to encourage her to not be overly concerned with other people's opinion of her, and I think that this has largely succeeded. Like any kid, she gets teased (for being skinny, for having brown hair, for…
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How to deal with an unsupportive parent

TL;DR My mother isn't supportive and she doesn't seem to understand me. My family life is miserable and I don't know what to do about my situation. I know I should probably see a counselor but my parents aren't willing to support me in that and a…
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My 8 y/o kid has problems socialising and said he hates himself

Background My 8 year old boy is having trouble making friends. He has always been a bit different and has never been much of an extrovert. I have never thought of it as a problem, since I've always thought that it does not bother him that much. He…
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Is my mom overly controlling?

I just wanted some help. I’m 18. Lately I have been really confused if my mother is overtly controlling or I’m just a frustrated teen or it is dysfunctional household. I really don’t know where to start. So since I was young I have always been…
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A boy at school told my 8-year-old daugther she had fat thighs. How to boost her self-esteem and make her eat healthier?

My 8-year-old daughter is very quiet and isolated at school. She has almost no friends. Besides, she doesn't like sports at all. Yesterday she told us that one of the boys at school told her she has fat thighs. When I look at her from that…
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Daughter is deciding to have a child with near-total stranger

I have a daughter who has made many, many bad choices in her life. At 26, she has already been in several failed relationships, got addicted to heroin, recovered (6 years now), moved in with a guy with a child who abused her, moved in with another…
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Our 6-year-old is talking down to herself. Why would she do that and should we be worried?

I have a 6-year-old daughter who is wonderful and basically your normal 6-year-old. One behavior that she has been exhibiting that scares her mother and me a bit is that she will occasionally talk down to herself. This typically happens when she's…
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Can living with my father be a detriment to my ability to parent and be a father figure for my own children?

My parents are very from an Asian culture where family is very important and parents are always meant to be close and respected. That is why when I got married they insisted that my wife and I come live them (they have a large house). There was some…
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How do I help my four-year old feel like they can do a challenge?

Today I offered my four-year old some flash-cards we had made together of the letters: M, N, O, P, Q and R. (Having done A-F, G-L on the two days before). We'd draw the letter, think of something for that letter, draw it, and then cut out the…
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How to raise a child such that she has high self esteem throughout her life?

I know I am beautiful and slim and trim, but still I always had and still have a low self esteem probably because I wasn't "good" at anything like sports, dancing, cooking etc. I always kept on "telling" people that I am not good enough. I even told…
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How do I inspire creativity for my child?

My 7-year-old son loves Lego and video games. He plays Minecraft on his tablet all the time, building various things, but apparently nearly everything he made was something he replicated from a Youtube video. He loves his Lego toys, and always begs…
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What to do about my 11 year old daughter dating a boy she's never met when I don't want her to?

My 11 year old girl started year 7. She struggled with finding friends and fitting in, had rumors being said the lot. She handled things well and I discreetly let the school know she’s struggling a bit. There’s so much nasty comments or fake friends…
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How to deal with over-inflated ego in teen

I am mentoring a 15 year old girl who is just now going in to 9th grade because of failing her last grade. Emotionally, she's fairly immature but starting to get into teenage girl things like makeup and hair. Of course she wants to have her own…
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