About when, how and what rules to set or how to deal with them. Add [discipline] if you want to know how to enforce rules.
Questions tagged [rules]
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How to deal with a situation in which following the rules feels like punishment and breaking them is rewarded?
Disclaimer:
This question is triggered by the current COVID-19 pandemic, but should please be seen as a more general question.
To cut a long story short, a long-planned birthday party sleepover at a friends house was violating both the existing and…
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?
I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position.
I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and PC-usage; to bed at 22.30 PM and PC until 20.30PM.…
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?
This is the setting:
I'm with my 6-7 years old son in a dinosaur park (in a day not busy at all, so he will not behave as a good boy just because there's people around him who could make him feel ashamed)
my son starts kicking a dinosaur…
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At what age should you allow your kids to go out alone?
Whether its to visit a friend who lives a few streets away, or going to the park by themselves, or going to the local shop, at what age do you allow your kids to go out by themselves?
And what rules do you set down?
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How to Teach That Following Rules is Not Always Good?
My 8 year old son has an issue with following rules a little too closely. He gets upset if rules and/or routine are broken.
For instance, last night he was upset because a classmate was singing during "the Quiet Game" when they were supposed to see…
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How to approach a stubborn parent about a rule that is harming my studying
For some context I have been playing musical instruments since I was around 7 years old in some capacity, ranging from the piano and singing, to the clarinet and saxophone.
We moved house around two years ago, and at the time we had horrible…
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How to positively teach a toddler dishonest actions are bad
While on vacation my family and I were at a store and my 4 year old daughter had picked up a toy and placed it on the checkout belt. At this time we did not notice the toy and proceeded to checkout and leave the store. While driving down the road…
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What consequences are appropriate for pre-teens?
There comes a time when time-outs don't cut it anymore.
Normally, when my kids exercise poor judgement, I let them experience natural consequences. However, sometimes their actions go against what we are teaching them and the consequences are…
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8-year-old right away repeats action after she is told not to do them
My 8-year-old right away repeats the things she is forbidden from doing.
For example, when she is told not to sing at the dinner table she will right away start singing in a lower tone.
This is not the case 100% of the time, but it is still…
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6 Year Old meal Time expectations
We have a 6 year old son and food time is often a struggle. My son is not interested in food (and more enticing food seems to make very little difference), and is very easily distracted, making him a slow eater. [A key concern is he is generally…
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What house rules are appropriate for pre-teens?
As my kids grow, they need different limits. Right now, the house rules are reactionary as a result of something we didn't like happening. Things like, "call home if you are going to be somewhere other than where you said you were going to be"…
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How strict should we be with our 14-month-old boy?
Our baby is really sweet :)
Generally can be considered as a good / easy going baby. There are times though, when he gets totally out of control.
I've had a discussion with a child-psychologist who stated that it is crucial, even for the first…
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What is the minimum amount of structure and rules that a child needs?
My wife and I have very different ways of handling our children (almost 3 and 5 years old). We agree about the rules we want to set, but we are complete opposite when it comes to implementing the rules.
For the last three to four years, I have been…
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Golden rule 'do's' and 'don'ts'' when holding a child's party - your experiences are asked!
This Saturday my 4 year old is having 5 Kindergarten friends over to celebrate being one meter tall (it's a 'one meter party').
We'll have a house and (weather permitting) garden for an afternoon of playing, games and eating meter long cake, meter…
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How to deal with children going to friend's houses to bypass rules
In our house, as with most households I assume, there are lots of rules that we decided on, which might not be agreed upon by other families. Our son is 9 at the moment.
For example, to prevent video game addiction, our son is not allowed to play…
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