For family extending the nuclear family and not covered by [grandparents] or [step-parents]. Can, for example, be used for nieces or nephews, mothers- or fathers-in-law, sisters- or brothers-in-law etc.
Questions tagged [extended-family]
49 questions
43
votes
5 answers
How best for a trans/non-binary person to respond to their 6-year-old cousin asking if I'm a girl or a boy?
I have twin 6-year-old cousins (a boy and a girl) who I usually see about once a week or so, when the locally-resident segment of my family get together for dinner on Friday evenings. Yesterday, when the twins and I were playing together while…
Vikki
- 559
- 2
- 7
- 21
38
votes
7 answers
How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome
Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own.
My mother, for reasons that make NO sense to me whatsoever,…
Jax
- 5,265
- 2
- 25
- 48
26
votes
11 answers
What is a reasonable amount of time to wait before family visits your new baby?
My wife and I are preparing to negotiate with our families about visiting our first baby. We want to take some time to recover and feel like we have a comfortable routine before taking visitors. We had discussed waiting a month but our families have…
user3588
26
votes
3 answers
What to do about the incestuous relationship between my daughter and her cousin?
I walked in on my daughter having sex with her cousin. They are both 14 years old. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she just ignored it.
This isn't the first time that…
user16264
26
votes
6 answers
Explaining mental illness to children
We have a relative with some sort of undiagnosed mental illness who (among other symptoms) compulsively cleans everything regularly with fairly strong bleach. Her fear of germs and infection is the most apparent symptom to my kids, who don't get…
Acire
- 22,679
- 12
- 69
- 116
14
votes
2 answers
When you don't think (grand)children are getting the care they need
My neigbor is now a grandmother of two little girls about whom she is very concerned.
Relevant backstory:
The grandmother/neighbor was an adict to multiple things while she raised the mother of the two girls. The grandmother is now clean and sober…
balanced mama
- 22,946
- 8
- 88
- 164
14
votes
4 answers
How can we explain our "cry it out" strategy to people who oppose it?
My wife and I have had success with a form of the "cry it out" strategy with our three children. I know it's not for everyone, but our household has gotten into some healthy sleep patterns without long periods of crying. If it's possible for…
Jon Ericson
- 2,230
- 2
- 22
- 34
13
votes
3 answers
What do you do when a relative heaps presents on her children at Christmas and Your kid's pile always looks paltry in comparison?
One set of my daughter's cousins have gigantic stockings, and they often get 3-4 major presents associated with St. Nick. We have modest stockings and give one toy from St. Nick and one - two presents from ourselves. Additionally, the presents get…
balanced mama
- 22,946
- 8
- 88
- 164
13
votes
3 answers
What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?
My 12-year-old nephew "Bob" took my 9-year-old son aside and showed him a video of ISIS beheading a victim. I am just flabbergasted that Bob would do that. Interestingly Bob did not show the video to my older child who is Bob's age. I suspect this…
Stone
- 414
- 2
- 7
12
votes
11 answers
How would I tell my Father-In-Law that he's being too lenient in disciplining my brother-in-law?
My wife and I are newlyweds, we married last December, and we're still trying to straighten out the paperwork for our new home. I've been staying with my wife in her family's home for couple of months.
My brother-in-law is under 18 years old, let's…
threeFatCat
- 247
- 1
- 3
- 8
11
votes
3 answers
How do we address other adults telling my son to ask us to bring him to their house?
My sister-in-law has developed a habit both my wife and I find annoying: in order to try and get us to come to their house more often, she constantly pulls my son aside when they're leaving from a visit, and tells him to "tell mommy and daddy to…
user420
11
votes
2 answers
How do I join a well established community (a family with my GF and her two kids actually)?
My GF has two kids, she lives in a big suburb, a little bit out of nowhere in the country side and I used to live in a global city. I moved to get closer to her, hence now I'm living with her and the two kids. W've been together for almost a…
Andy K
- 866
- 1
- 9
- 18
9
votes
4 answers
What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?
The girls insist on opening presents for their younger cousins and brother at birthday parties where the family is included. While this was acceptable when the younger cousins (and sibling) were too young to actually open their own gifts, it really…
balanced mama
- 22,946
- 8
- 88
- 164
9
votes
5 answers
Embarrassing experience with my nephew; Should I tell his parents?
The experience and my actions at the time:
Three years ago, my nephew was three years old, in the middle of his potty training. After lunch with the family everyone went outside, he and his older brother (who was 6 back then) joined me near the…
user2513
9
votes
5 answers
How strict can I be with my niece?
I am a new Uncle and I sometimes find myself in the position that I should tell my niece off, yet I feel that it's not my place to do this.
I would only raise my voice to her, but I feel this may overstep the bounds with her parents (my Brother and…
Chris Barry
- 191
- 2
- 4