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Questions tagged [attachment]

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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

Background My wife and I recently moved into a town-house apartment in a large complex. We have a Husky pup that my wife walks twice a day (she's a stay-at-home) and the dog attracts lots of attention from the neighborhood kids. One of those kids is…
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Toddler has a strong preference for one parent

Our almost 2 year old toddler has developed a strong preference for me. In mild doses, this was acceptable but it is getting pretty out of hand. She cries when my husband, her father, tries to hug her, kiss her, put her to bed, etc. He literally has…
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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: How to Handle Poisoned Comments from Toddler?

I left my verbally abusive ex-wife about 18 months, in part because I could see how much of an effect all the yelling had on my now 5-year old daughter and I wanted both my daughter and my now 3.5 year old son to grow up in a positive…
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How to handle the situation with a 1-year-old preferring dad over mom with her suffering emotionally?

I am the proud father of a 1-year-old boy. My wife and I love him to pieces! A few months after his birth I suffered through a terrible bout of anxiety attacks. Turns out it was just my way of reacting to such a drastic change in my life and it…
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What to do about our 2-year-old attaching to another parent?

Our 2-year-old child just started preschool and is attaching to other kids' parents. Stuff like: Wants to hold the other parent's hand, but not ours; gives the other parent a hug at pick-up from preschool, but not us; following around other parents…
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Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?

My 5 year old pre-schooler exhibits some behaviors that have my wife & I a little concerned, but we're unsure whether there's a real problem or not. I'll try to summarize some of his behaviors and/or personality traits (positive & negative), then go…
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4 year old daughter starved for Dad's attention

My 4 year old daugther always wants my attention, and I try my best to give it to her. Either by telling stories, playing with stuffed animals, reading books, or anything else she likes to do. I have heard of too many dads who neglect their…
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How widespread is attachment parenting?

Ever since bumping on Dr. Sears' "Baby Book" I've become interested in attachement parenting and found a lot of resources on the internet. But I'm wondering how widespread this kind of parenting actually is. I read somewhere also that it's kind of…
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At what age do children notice the absence of a parent?

This past weekend, my wife went on a retreat while I stayed home with our 1-year-old twins. Since they were sleeping when she left, there was no separation anxiety. The next morning, I changed them as usual, but instead of taking them to our…
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Is it unusual to have protective feelings over one's child?

I'm the mother of a 9-month-old. I feel too protective of my baby. I mean I can't leave him for a minute on its own, I feel that I have to constantly watch over my precious child. Is it normal for a mother to feel this way?
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Strong Grandmother Attachment

I have a 2-year-old granddaughter who is so attached to me she will resist her mother, sometimes very strongly. My concern is my daughter's feelings. She already feels guilty enough for working. I kept this grandchild at home for the first 6 months…
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Custodial arrangements in co-parenting: frequency of transfers from one parent to the other

I'm in a co-parenting situation and I have the feeling our 3.5-year-old son is suffering emotionally from transferring homes too often. He spends one night with mom, then the following night with dad, repeated almost daily, with two consecutive…
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What's the father's role in forming attachment?

I've read some material about the mother's role in forming good attachment in children under the age of one year. My question is - do you know about the role of fathers in forming attachment? Let's take a real example: If the father leaves a…
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How to remove a 3-year-old's "over" attachment to his mother?

We have a 3-year-old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly attached to his mom. Wherever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is not with him. He wants his Mom all the time. He…
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How can I ensure that my daughter is not excessively attached to me?

I have been a single father to my two children- a sixteen year old girl and a fourteen year old boy- ever since my wife separated from me eight years ago and married another man. I have had extremely anxious moments balancing my work and my family…
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